Today I wanted to talk about feeling Lonely. It’s something I experience a lot, and know a lot of other people do too, so I thought I would write about ways of overcoming loneliness. This is going to be a more chatty post with the main points scattered around, rather than the normal list format.
The first thing I would say is to accept that you are feeling alone, and that it is a completely natural feeling. Everyone feels lonely and sad at some point. The sooner you accept how you feel, the sooner you can get over it. Just remember that just because you feel lonely now, does not mean it will last forever. Once you have accepted this, you can work out how to fix it and overcome it.
I would say that one of the most important things to overcoming anything emotional, is that it is completely normal and okay to feel this way. Everyone feels sad and lonely at times. It’s okay. It doesn’t make you any less important or any lower than anyone else. Emotions make you human. The best way to over come things like this, is to be happy about yourself. You have to be happy about yourself for others to be happy about you. If there is a sad-looking girl with low self-esteem and a happy-looking girl who (acts like she) has confidence in herself – who would you be more likely to approach in the search of a friend or someone to have a conversation with?
If you are feeling lonely because you feel like nobody likes you – you have to remember that there are people who like you! If ever in doubt, remember who you are and the good things about yourself. There are aspects of yourself that you like – therefore there is going to be people who like that about you too! But remember that not everyone is going to like you. It’s okay not to appeal to everyone, as long as you are happy with yourself. I know that is hard sometimes, but there are always things you can pick out about yourself. Even if I am having a really bad turn, I will do something and maybe say, “Wow – I like my makeup/hair/nails today”. It’s something positive that you have picked out about yourself!
Finally, don’t wallow in self-pity and loneliness. As hard as it is, you need to stay positive, even if it is about the smallest of things. You may not think so, but even saying “The weather looks nice today” or “my hair looks good today” or “my room looks tidy today” can help with that positivity boost to get you started. Do something – keep yourself busy. It doesn’t even have to be going out with other people. Do something creative, or go for a walk. It’s a great time to try something new – pick up a new hobby, it will make you feel more positive and even more interesting! Just remember to put yourself out there. Make yourself approachable. Give people a reason to talk to you and like you. Think about qualities that would make someone else approachable and likable to you, and try to apply them to yourself.
I hope you liked this post, I know it was pretty long, but I will be making more of these sorts of things. They hopefully help you, and they help me too.
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