How to build self-confidence

Hi everyone.

I’m going to share with you 10 tips to help start to build your self-confidence.

1. Recognise your insecurities. We all have that voice in that back of our mind that makes you feel uncomfortable or ashamed of yourself. Whatever is making you feel unworthy or ashamed, identify it. This can be physical, emotional or mental.

2. Talk about it. Talk to someone to help wear it down. There is no quick fix, so start by getting to the root of the problem. Focus on it and understand that each issue needs resolving before moving on. You need to learn to accept yourself, your past and your circumstances without necessarily thinking of them as ‘bad’.

3. Bounce back from mistakes. No one is perfect and even the most confident people have insecurities. It is reality that at some stage in our lives we may feel as though something is lacking. Learn that life isn’t always a smooth path and often these insecure feelings will come and go. They can depend on where you are, who you are with, the mood you’re in and how you are feeling – they aren’t constant.

4. Identify your Success. Focus on your talents and things at which you excel in – everyone is good at something. Take pride in and take credit for you successes. Find something you enjoy, as everyone is born with talents and strengths. You can develop and excel in yours, or find something you would like to do and develop your skills in that. When you’re following your passion, not only will it have a therapeutic effect, but you’ll feel unique and accomplished, all of which can help build your self-confidence.

5. Be Thankful. Feeling you do not have enough of something (whether it’s emotional validation, luck, money etc.) is often at the root of insecurity and lack of confidence. You can combat the feeling of being unsatisfied and incomplete by acknowledging and appreciating what you do have – finding inner peace will do wonders for your confidence.

6. Be Positive. Even if you don’t feel positive, avoid self-pity or the pity and sympathy of others. Never allow others to make you feel inferior. Loathing and belittling yourself will only encourage other to do so too and believe likewise. Speak positively about yourself, your future and your progress instead. Do not be afraid to project your strengths and qualities to others – by doing so, you reinforce those ideas in your mind and encourage your growth in a positive direction.

7. Accept Compliments. Respond positively to compliments. Don’t just roll your eyes or shrug it off. Also, don’t deflect the compliment by saying why it is incorrect (example, “your hair looks nice” – “no it doesn’t, it’s really messy”). This only shows how little confidence you have in yourself and can discourage people to compliment you in the future.

8. Smile at yourself in the mirror. Studies surrounding what’s called the “facial feedback theory” suggest that the expressions on your face can actually encourage your brain to register certain emotions. So by looking in the mirror and smiling every day, you might feel happier with yourself and more confident in the long run. Looking in the mirror whilst reinforcing your positivity can lead you to picking out positive aspects of yourself, which you will later be directed to when you look in the mirror at a later time.

9. Help Others. When you know you’re kind to the people around you, and are making a positive difference in other people’s lives, you’ll know that you are a positive force in the world–which will boost your self-confidence.

10. Avoid Perfectionism. Perfectionism paralyzes you and keeps you from accomplishing your goals. You will set your goals at what is ‘perfect’ which you are most likely not able to reach. Perfection is more often than not, not achievable – so set yourself reasonable goals. Do not go for ‘Perfection’. Perfection, in my eyes, is at the point where you feel happy with yourself.

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